True Love lives in a real world, with real challenges and other real emotions. It is incredibly beautiful, True Love. But it takes lots of strength, courage and faith. A little humbleness, too. A little taking the back seat sometimes and a lot of never giving up! True Love is all encompassing. It loves your husband, your children, your friends, God – even strangers. I would not want to live without it ~ Blue Cotton Memory
My son just got his license. He not only met our requirements (grades) but he met the State of Tennessee’s requirements. The first thing he did was go pick up his friend, who had often picked him up, checked on him when he was having a hard time. His friend’s grandmother had suffered a heart-attack followed by a stroke. Her life is tenuous right now – and he feels his girlfriend isn’t there for him.
I told him what I told all my boys – when you meet the right girl, she will be there for you. God will give you a trust, a trust like the kind you had for your parents the day you were born – a God-given trust. . . and you will be there for each other because not being there isn’t fathomable. We talked about praying – for his grandmother, praying about whether this was the girl.
God took a rib from Adam and made woman. Eve completed Adam; From Adam, Eve became. Neither of us, my husband or I am complete without the other. Jerry McGuire with Tom Cruise didn’t come up with that. God did – He created that.
The searching for that person who is the missing piece, the part that completes is a tough journey. Especially for teens and young adults who just recognize that yearning and might not understand that it is a journey to that person – God knows the place, the date, the time of that meeting.
Below is a chronicle of mothering through this journey. Please stop by. Visit. Some are funny. Some are serious. All are focused on true love.
June of 2009 – It was my second month of blogging – and it is the most special to my heart. All the posts led up to my oldest son’s wedding and they are all about teaching my sons about girls and love. Perfect for Valentine week! Can you guess which is my favorite?
- “Hubba Bubba” – Teen Relationships and breaking up
- “You’re a Cake; She’s a Cake” – Why teen relationships are frustrating
- “Are You Man Enough” – Do you love her enough to . . .
- “The Girl” – Tips to Recognizing “The Girl” your son will marry
- “What Do I Think of Her?” – The Perfect Answer to the Dumbest Question
- “What are You Doing for the Rest of Your Life?” – Rehearsal Dinner Poem
- “Prayer for My Son’s Wife” – Prayer given to my Daughter-in-Law before the wedding
Just case you’re wondering what I think about the love of my life, please check out these posts:
How special to have captured all of this, and I love that you wrote that prayer for your son’s wife. You are such a good mom / mother-in-law!
Hugs to you,
Genny
I liked “The Girl” – I remember when you first posted it too!
In answer to your question about snow:
Two years ago when Nutmeg was just born I can remember one of my visiting friends leaving the hospital early because she was worried about getting home due to the extremely snowy conditions. That would have been February 11th or thereabouts. This year we’ve just had two weeks of brilliant, warm sunshine which has melted almost all the snow off where we live – about 1500 feet I think. Today is the first cloudy day since the end of January, and it’s still warm, and I can’t actually remember when exactly it last snowed. Yesterday we went out without coats, and I don’t think I’ve ever done that in February before.
So I’m not sure what people in America imagine when they think of Swiss snow, but I guess the answer is it varies! But generally speaking yes, there will be snow in winter, even if you have to go a bit higher up the mountains to find it – my in-laws were able to go skiing and sledging this week without any trouble.
If you were thinking of visiting and wanting lots of snow while here, February would normally be the best month. There is often a slight thaw in January, or so I’m told, it just seems to have gone on for a very long time this year! The ski season continues till roughly the end of March although by then it is usually quite warm and snow-free in the valleys and down on the plains around Zurich and that. But then there are also areas with perpetual snow, even in summer. (I dislike summer here because I melt, but that’s a whole other story!)
By the way, the BBC had a magazine article this week about unrequited love in books and whether that ideal makes it hard for us to cope with real love. (Secular perspective obviously, but some good points.) I enjoyed it. Here’s the link in case you find you want something to read:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-12404332
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Thanks for visiting my blog… and I am so HAPPY that you visited my blog… your posts are inspirations to me… It was so sweet that you blessed your daughter in law… I have not met anyone like that before… I am truly happy to have you visit my blog thank you…
I’m guessing that your favorite is the poem, “What are you doing for the rest of your life.”
I’m intrigued by “What do I think of her?” Off to check it out.
I love your “true love” quote–full of beauty and wisdom. And I have the “mom-of-boys-thing” in common with you! It’s a tough spot to be in, I have to say, but it sounds as if you’ve navigated so well through those challenges. I’ll have to check out your other writings on the subject. I can use all the help I can get! Thanks so much for linking up too, my friend!
I appreciate your wisdom. I like the grade requirement idea. This day is coming for me soon.
It sounds like you are guiding your young men in the right direction in so many ways…love, learning, life. I pray that I can do the same for my guys.
Wow, this post is straight from the heart. I love what you told your sons fiend I love all of it. big hugs. thank you for adding your wonderful blog to the Thursday Favorite Things hop. xo