Prayer for My Son’s Wife

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Prayer for My Son’s Wife

June 4, 2015 by bluecottonmemory

Wife of my son, daughter of our family,

Today you become officially the #1 woman in in my son’s life. I wouldn’t want it any other way. Just as your father gives you to my son today, so I give my son to you, with a glad heart and much love.

For years, I prayed that God would protect and bless the girls my boys would marry. I prayed in faith that God would bring daughter-in-laws who had a heart for our family, our strengths and weaknesses included.

When God blesses, He blesses abundantly. I prayed for children. He gave me 5 sons. I prayed for a good husband. He sent me the best. I prayed for my sons to be healed at various times. They are healthy and whole. God is faithful to His promises. He brought you, the abundant answer to prayer.

Samuel’s father, Elkanah, provides the prototype for what I consider a most wonderful husband! It is from his relationship with Hannah that I pray my hope and faith for your marriage.

In the mighty name of Jesus I pray that my son will be the Elkanah to your Hannah.

I pray that my son favors you above all others, giving you double portions, seeking out why you cry, why you will not eat, why you are down-hearted—that he sees your genuine heart, kindness, and heart’s desires—through the hills and valleys of your life.

I pray that you value each other as Elkanah valued Hannah. He wanted to mean more to her than 10 sons. Sons defined the value of a woman during that time. If she couldn’t produce sons, she had no value, no esteem in the community. What the world says is valuable is not what is important. Elkanah values her heart, her companionship, who she is—not her position in the community, her job, or where she comes from. He values what’s on the inside.

I pray that each of you pour your soul out to the Lord, praying and sharing God’s word in your life with each other, that your house be full of children who bring you much joy, that your children return there to find comfort, rest and spiritual refreshment.

I pray that you put God above all the desires of your heart because then you will be blessed beyond measure.

We are so glad you’ve come!

Posted in Children, children 7-9, children 9-12, Children pre-7, Christian, Motherhood, Sons, teen | 62 Comments

62 Responses

on June 21, 2009 at 1:25 pm | Reply Sandy

I stopped by to welcome you to SITS! It’s great to have you in the SITStahood!
on June 21, 2009 at 2:06 pm | Reply Lesley

oh yeah…how wonderful…stopping by to welcome you to SITS….I’m so happy you are here.
on June 22, 2009 at 12:24 am | Reply Michelle

That is beautiful. I send all my blessings to your son and daughter in law. I wish them a lifetime of happiness!
on June 22, 2009 at 12:33 am | Reply Kristen @All In A Mom's Life

What a sweet prayer. It will be cherished.
on June 22, 2009 at 4:13 am | Reply Bethany

Aww,

What a sweet post! I was just stopping by to say hi from SITS but I’ll be back!!!
on June 22, 2009 at 5:42 am | Reply greedygrace

This is beautiful, and what every bride wishes for from her mother in law.

I came by to welcome you to SITS! We’re happy to have you with us!
on June 22, 2009 at 5:20 pm | Reply deb

Hi,

I tried to add you to my blog roll…but had a problem. I’m easily stumped by technology.

Will try again.
on June 22, 2009 at 10:01 pm | Reply msakelley

Here from SITS to welcome you and Blessings on your new Daughter. So wonderful!!
on June 22, 2009 at 11:59 pm | Reply Jules

Your blog is so encouraging and so inspiring. I grew up in such a warm christian home with very loving parents who were very much in love with each other. I so long to have my children have that same experience. How nice that yours do! It is so rare these days!! Stay an awesome example! Looking forward to following your stories. And in regard to my children…..you hit the nail on the head!!!
on June 23, 2009 at 12:14 am | Reply Tammy Lessick

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on June 23, 2009 at 12:54 am | Reply Jen Neill

Would you please be my mother in law??? I would cry if I thought mine had such beautiful words for me.
on June 23, 2009 at 12:58 am | Reply Todra

This is such a sweet post. I wish them the best.
And thanks for visiting my blog and the kind comment.
on June 23, 2009 at 1:01 am | Reply Jessica

Thanks for commenting on my blog :). Stopping by from SITS! I’m amazed: 5 boys! Incredible. Do you feel outnumbered? You seem like a great mom! Lovely message to your new daughter!
on June 23, 2009 at 1:34 am | Reply Sara

Absolutely beautiful post! Thanks for stopping by my blog! I’ll definitely come back here for more advice on raising boys!
on June 23, 2009 at 2:38 am | Reply Christina

What a great post for your daughter-in-law! Thanks for coming by my blog.
on June 23, 2009 at 3:32 am | Reply Daiquiri

What a beautiful prayer – a treasure for your new daughter, to be sure. Blessings!
on June 23, 2009 at 3:36 am | Reply Country-Fried Mama

What a wonderful way to welcome your daughter-in-law to your family. Congratulations!
on June 23, 2009 at 3:53 am | Reply Anna

I pray that I will have a mother in law that is just as sweet and caring as you Maryleigh! Elizabeth is so blessed to have you! =)
on June 23, 2009 at 5:02 am | Reply Denise

Such a precious post, bless you.
on June 23, 2009 at 5:36 am | Reply Stonefox

What a beautiful post. If only every mom had this perspective!

Thanks for your encouraging comment on my blog. It was a blessing!
on June 23, 2009 at 5:57 am | Reply Jessica Mommynightowl

great post! so beautiful. your new daughter in law is very lucky to be in your family.
on June 23, 2009 at 6:14 am | Reply Crown of Beauty

Dear new found friend, I love it when someone visits my blog, and when I hop over to her place, realize that our hearts beat for the same things…and we never even planned it. I can only call it a divine appointment, a God moment when God allows two friends who have already somehow met at God’s throne of grace, but just never saw each other face to face here on earth! That is how I would describe what I feel when I visited your blog and began reading your most recent posts.

Thank you for taking the initiative…

As time allows, I’ll be back to read more of your life, and I invite you to do the same!
on June 23, 2009 at 12:30 pm | Reply Katie

You stopped by my blog last night, so I followed your link to check on yours….and you have blessed me in turn!

My children are currently 8, 10, and 12, and I pray those kinds of prayers over them, for their future spouses. I have to admit, in today’s world, it can seem as though it will be nothing short of a miracle for God to provide three godly spouses for my three children. Yet I tenaciously cling to the knowledge that He can, and therefore He will.

So it is encouraging to see how He Who Never Changes has answered these same prayers for another trusting mother.

God bless!

-Katie <
http://www.HopeIsCalling.com
on June 23, 2009 at 1:37 pm | Reply Jennifer

Amazing. Truly amazing. What a beautiful post.

This gets me:

“I pray that you value each other as Elkanah valued Hannah. He wanted to mean more to her than 10 sons. Sons defined the value of a woman during that time. … Elkanah values her heart, her companionship, who she is—not her position in the community, her job, or where she comes from. He values what’s on the inside.”

I’ve been so blessed by coming here today. Blessed by your wisdom and your passion for God’s Word, and by your heart for praying this blessing over your son and daughter-in-law.
on June 23, 2009 at 2:01 pm | Reply jubilee

What a blessing this post has been to me. So beautiful and moving. I can only imagine how much more of a blessing it is to your new daughter.

I am blessed to have a great mother-in-law too.
on June 23, 2009 at 3:27 pm | Reply janis

what a lovely message.

thanks for visiting my blog 🙂
on June 23, 2009 at 4:55 pm | Reply Stephanie - Mommyof2Girlz

Such a beautiful, moving post. Stopping in to welcome you to SITS 🙂
on June 23, 2009 at 4:56 pm | Reply thewinequeen

How beautiful! Congrats on the new addition to your family!
on June 24, 2009 at 12:41 am | Reply Judy Martin

If you could switch this story around you would discover all that I would feel stepping into a guy’s room. As I read down through this beautiful post, I found myself smiling as I was identifying with you in a strange sort of way. I really enjoyed reading the last two posts and feeling your heart as you wrote. You truly will be a wonderful mother-in-law. You are stepping into a brand new world. With two son-in-laws and two grandsons, I am also in a new world and loving every minute. Great post!!
on June 24, 2009 at 1:24 pm | Reply Lisa Roerdink

This is beautiful. How wise of you to pray for women who have a heart for your family! I pray all sorts of things for my son’s future bride (he’s 9 months old;-) ) but that never occurred to me! Thanks for that.
on June 24, 2009 at 2:14 pm | Reply Joy

I am gleaning some invaluable wisdom from this post today!

Stopping by to welcome you to the SITS community! It’s great to have you as a SITSta!
on June 25, 2009 at 5:26 am | Reply Shera

Wow! I saw the title of this post through commentluv on the comment you left on my site and I HAD to check it out!

Tears immediately came to my eyes when I saw what you were writing about since it is the biggest desire and prayer in my heart that each of my 6 sons be blessed with a wonderful wife! We’re still a little way off, but I know the time will be here before we know it.
on June 28, 2009 at 1:51 am | Reply Jen, buried with children

as a mother of 3 boys this is beautiful and what I wish too.

stopped by from SITS to say hello and welcome.
on July 18, 2009 at 1:07 am | Reply Mocha Momma

What a beautiful thing to write a prayer for your new daughter-in-law (daughter).

That was a wonderful way to welcome her into the family.
on July 25, 2009 at 11:39 pm | Reply Bean

This is beautiful! When I married my husband a few people told me that they had been doing the same for us and it meant a lot to me. Thank you for sharing!
on August 22, 2009 at 6:49 pm | Reply julia

beautiful post. thanks for coming to my blog and sharing that with me. very well written!! 🙂
on September 28, 2009 at 8:39 am | Reply Far above rubies

This is beautiful! As I am reading this, I thank the Lord for my wonderful husband. I, like Hannah, can’t have kids either, and I am chinese – a culture where women are valued by the abilities to produce. I had cancer, and had to have hysterectomy long before I met my husband, the day I finally told him, he cried with me, and said ‘it is your heart that I love, not your ability to have kids. The Lord is faithful, and He will give where he sees fit. If He decides not to give us kids, He has other blessings in store’. Thank the Lord for God fearing boyfriend (and now husband)!=)

Thanks for visiting our blog today! =) Glad we found you. Do you mind be a guest writer, and sharing this post on our blog? (Please reply to our email) =) Thanks, and God bless!!

Mrs. V
on November 17, 2009 at 12:21 pm | Reply Miss Always Carried Away

This is so beautiful! Amazing! I’m out of words! You will be the best mother-in-law ever! She should read it and be more aware how amazing you are! Your sons must be so pround to have a mum like you:)

I’m seriously speechless..

Thank you so much for visiting my blog and leaving such a sweet comment! Have a lovely day!
on December 2, 2009 at 7:28 pm | Reply Marie

What lovely words for your daughter-in-law! I hope my future mother-in-law feels this way when I marry her son! Thanks so much for stopping at my blog and for sharing yours with me!!
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on May 17, 2011 at 2:04 am | Reply I Live in an Antbed

This is profoundly powerful! Thank you! As the mother of three sons and four daughters, I appreciate it from both directions! 🙂
on June 15, 2011 at 9:43 pm | Reply mbrie

you can’t know how this has blessed me. the merging of families is such a delicate dance. i am grateful for this perspective. thank you.
on October 17, 2011 at 9:49 am | Reply rejoyful

As a mother to three sons, my prayer for years is for their future wives to be women of virtue and have been praying as they are raised up. SInce the time is getting closer, your prayer was perfect to adjust my attitude to embracing our daughter in laws one day with such a powerful blessing. Thank you so much for sharing!
on October 17, 2011 at 9:56 am | Reply Janette@Janette's Sage

Amen…from another mother of five boys…one now married. I do have a daughter and pray for her husband as well.
on October 17, 2011 at 11:20 pm | Reply e-Mom

I just left a comment. Did it disappear? If so, I apologize.

I loved your prayer, and wish you could be my MIL too.

Blessings my friend,

e-Mom ღ
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on March 26, 2012 at 9:20 pm | Reply Tammy

Absolutely beautiful! Praying your prayer for my future dil!!
on June 1, 2012 at 11:31 pm | Reply Stacie @ No Idle Bread

This is so beautifully sweet!!! I pray for my children’s future spouses, too. I find it such a blessing that you free your DIL to be #1 in your sons life without fear of somehow overstepping or upsetting you. This is so beautiful and yet so contrary to what the world says a mother/DIL relationship looks like. Thank you for the inspiration.
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on May 17, 2013 at 4:11 pm | Reply Sandra Hersey

This is beautiful! Thanks for sharing it with me!
Hugs,
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on August 21, 2013 at 9:22 am | Reply messymarriage

I love that you’ve chosen Elkanah and Hanna as the inspiration for your words of blessing to your daughter-in-law. They truly were a beautiful love story in all the ways you pointed out here. And if your daughter-in-law is new to your family, then congrats on that front as well! In fact, it inspires me to do something like this when my sons get married. Such a sweet gift!
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on June 6, 2014 at 7:29 pm | Reply pjkuhn

I am so thankful you shared this with me. I’ll be incorporating this in my prayers the next seven months.
on June 4, 2015 at 12:33 am | Reply Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

Beautiful. She’s lucked out in the mother-in-law sweeps!
on June 4, 2015 at 12:48 am | Reply poetrycottage

What a precious welcome to your godly family you have given. Oh! That more could be welcomed with such love. Congratulations all round.
on June 4, 2015 at 9:19 am | Reply Marilyn V.

So sweet! I know you are a wonderful mother-in-law!
on June 4, 2015 at 4:36 pm | Reply elizabethfstewart

What a beautiful prayer!
on June 5, 2015 at 12:09 pm | Reply lbddiaries

Beautiful! And I love how you brought in Samuel’s father and that story which I had never seen before. That was awesome and really blessed me today. Only thing missing is a picture of your brand-new daughter-in-law !!
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