“If they don’t let us in, you’ll talk to them, won’t you mom?” My son asked. “Like you did before.”
This was summer; we’d just moved back “home” after our 2 year journey some-other-place. During our tenure away, the school board had redistricted so that many families who lived 2 minutes away from their schools would drive 15 minutes away – and those 15 minutes away would pass us on the way to our “old” school. And this son, who had so missed his friends, his teachers, his home – this son was scared . . . scared he really wouldn’t be home.
This son remembered the embarrassing battles I’d fought – embarrassing to him.
He remembered being in Wal-Mart with me after Christmas. My mom had sent the boys a game that just needed exchanging for an equal priced game. However, because I didn’t have a receipt, it rang up with a $5 deficit. When I asked to speak to the manager, my boys sighed, “Are you going to embarrass us?”
“No! I’m just standing up for what is right. I just want an equal exchange,” I answered. And they watched me parle that fair, equal exchange of one priced product for another.
He remembered a back-to-school battle in Wal-Mart’s check-out aisle – 3 of the boys and me, school supplies filling the cart – I asked to speak to the manager. My boys asked, “Are you going to embarrass us?” The teen just stood stoic, knowing his mama.
Out of ear-shot of my sons, I talked to the manager: “Do you see my sons? Do you see my school supplies? Why would you have sexually explicit material easily readable, easily available in a family friendly store, where you want us to come and spend our money on back-to-school products – and yet have a magazine with sex directions where my kids can read – ’cause my kids can read. I taught them,” I explained to the manager.
“You guys are such hypocrites, taking our family friendly money for school supplies and then dis-respecting our values by placing those magazines uncovered for my kids to read. You guys need to decided who you are – Family Friendly or Porn-Friendly,” I argued, trying to persuade them to place Cosmopolitan and Glamour under sleeves. Today, those magazines are under sleeves.
He remembered when we’d first moved into the school district, being dragged with 3 of his brothers to the superintendent’s office. The older boys knew: “Mom’s going to embarrass us.”
We had moved into this particular district so the boys could attend this school. His district school, however, was going to bus him to another school due to over-crowding. This was the one son who would have dissembled if he were separated from his brothers. This would also put 3 sons at 3 different schools. The next year would have 4 sons at 4 different schools.
I didn’t know who I was going to talk to, but we were told we could wait but it could be hours. I will admit that when 4 or 5 of my sons are with me anywhere – it is not a sight easily over-looked – one of the perks of 1( a large family and 2) all of them being boys.
Twenty minutes later, a man stopped by, saw us sitting in chairs waiting for someone who wasn’t there and invited us into his office. He was the superintendent. He pulled in chairs for all 4 boys, heard my calm, impassioned plea, called the school and squared things away.
To my boys, I’m just mom. Managers and Superintendents are important people – who am I to question or fight for right with such important people – me a mere mama.
And here was my son, asking me to fight for him – if his “home” school wouldn’t let him go there.
I don’t think he doubted for a moment that I would fight for him. He needed assurance that I would bring out my mama-mojo, the same one that “embarrassed” them in Wal-Mart, in the Superintendent’s office, well, just probably everywhere.
He just needed assurance – because I am his champion. I am his provider. I supply all his needs. I believe in him. I would go to the mat for him.
I wonder, for a moment, how he doubts it.
Then I realize – I’m that way with God sometimes. I forget when I’m in the midst of a challenge, when I’m overcome, when I’m trying to handle it all myself, that He wants to fight for me. I just need to step out of the way.
” The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still” (Exodus 14: 14).
I need to trust him – to remember all the times He has fought for me before – before my very eyes!
“The LORD your God, who is going before you, will fight for you, as he did for you in Egypt, before your very eyes” (Deut 1:30).
My boys don’t always see the battles my husband and I fight for them – just like I don’t always see the battles the Father fights for me. There is goodness in that. I’m sure that if I actually knew all the battles and why – I’d be a mess, scared to put a toe out the door of my home.
However, I need to know about some of those battles, to see that He does fight for me – because it builds trust, faith, and relationship. Those battles He has fought for more taught me that He just isn’t words in a book – He is real and He loves me. I am important to Him, not because I am worthy but because He loves me.
Having seen me fight battles that affect him both directly and indirectly, my son understands that I can and will fight for him.
“You yourselves have seen everything the LORD your God has done to all these nations for your sake; it was the LORD your God who fought for you” (Joshua 23:3)
God fights for us. Sometimes we ask because, like my son, we need that confirmation. God does it more gracefully than mamas – I don’t ever recall being embarrassed when He fought for me!
Do you remember the ways He has fought for you?
Yes I do remember, and continue to remember… YOUR story is awesome. Thank you for reminding us all, it is ok and right to stand up for our children. ALWAYS.
I’m stuck on the part about Cosmo magazines – they actually covered them in sleeves because you asked? Way to go, Mom. Thank you for this thoughtful post. Stopping by today from Playdates With God.
It was a combination of talking to the manager and calling the 1-800 number. It also requires vigilance because the magazine suppliers try to leave those sleaves off after about 6 weeks. Not voicing a “Stop – that’s not right” is a green light to them!
What an amazing story!! I love the Exodus 14 verse. It is one of my absolute favorites:)))
Thank you for sharing…
It’s so funny you have to fight to cover those magazines up and my friend had to fight to get her Christian-based magazine IN to the store. I truly enjoyed this post Mama Bear!
God requires us to be strong and courageous and you certainly have been all that and more. How beautiful that you stood up for what is right and had the faith and courage to do it even if it might embarrass your kids. Now they know they can depend on you to fight for them just as we can depend on God. Blessings to you and stay strong.
Joy
Oh, I love it when I find myself in sync with another dear blogger. I love when God repeats Himself and never seems to grow tired or weary from lovingly imparting His words to us.
Loved your fighting spirit! I know your boys love it, too, even if they don’t admit it…right now!
how blessed your boys are to have you as their mama…loved the reminder of how God our loving heavenly Father fights for us…blessings, Mary Leigh 🙂
I’m just speechless with amazement. Bless you, Mama Bear! Thank you for a post I will think about for the rest of the week.
I love your mama-mojo. 🙂 Our kids really don’t have a clue how much we fight for them in ways they never see, many of them on our knees. Just like we don’t have a clue how many battles our own parents may have fought for us.
And Jesus? Oh my. I know I’m clueless on all the suffering he’s endured for me. But I am grateful!
Great post!
Amen to that. And I love how He accepts my need for reassurance too–the way He gently reminds. I learn so much from my boys like this too. Lovely thoughts.
Oh, and I forgot to say, I love those scripture images!
Oh, yes I remember and am so thankful He did!
Your boys are lucky to have a mama that will stand up for what’s right, they may not appreciate it now, but they will when they are older and can look back.
Blessings to you!
Thank you, It is good to be reminded that God fights for us and we can trust in him.
Beautiful post.
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