Archive for the ‘mourning’ Category

When Jesus was born, he brought with him the gift of Salvation. When he died, he left us the power of the Holy Spirit to help us 1) overcome and 2) help others overcome through prayers that intercede, giving others that Holy Spirit strength to stand when they cannot. It is a season of intercession, of teaming together with the Holy Spirit.

I’m reposting this today because I haven’t the words nor the actions to bind the wounds of grieving parents – but I do have prayer – and prayer can reach further than words or actions. These kindergartent parents, the children of these teachers – they need right now – need for us to support through prayer.

What do you do with second-hand grief?

When crisis and tragedy comes to people you love who aren’t your own, but are – and your heart bursts with grief, empathy, love for those wounded –  what do you do to staunch the flow of their pain.

Cook meals, help clean-up the unthinkable, feel powerless to make things right in our own ability – until remembering Him, I intercede.

Second-hand grief intercedes. Stands in the gap. Maybe in that intercession, in the prayer, in that grief – we carry some of the overwhelming burden of that first-hand grief until they are strong enough to carry it all themselves.

Yesterday, hearts broke in our little neighborhood when a jungle gym/tree house tipped over, falling on one of these precious children, taking her to heaven.

Our little community, our little ones who were all for one and one for all, their spirits are bruised up.

The neighborhood has hushed. A lot of quiet. No children’s laughter right now. No joy sounds. No little feet running and playing. No one knocking on doors seeking their friends.

Bruised up and praying.

Praying that only things of God take root in the hearts of this beautiful, safety-diligent, God-loving, gentle family who lost so much, who just want prayer.


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The mission statement for Blue Cotton Memory is to “share homespun stories that provide laughter, insight into raising sons, solution options for challenges faced on both mothers and sons in and  outside that relationship.”

Raising sons includes teaching them how to handle success, failure, pride, fear, competition, anger, relationships, humor, hurt, peas, ice cream, banana peels, and yes, even joy and mourning. Sadly, the posts of the last month have focused on the latter.  I have been so blessed by the blogahood – either with sweet comments that made me smile or cry or both – and wonderful posts I read that made me laugh: Olga, Sarah and the Gentlemen, Lily, Kristi, Jennifer, Shell, Corrie, RCubes, Rebecca Jo, Christy Rose, Patti, JDaniels4Mom, Meg, Mika, Kelly, Tina, Rebecca, Raising My 4 Sons, Colleen, Sasha, Jana, Paula, Beverly, Karen, Michelle, Heather, Summer, Teresa, and Jessica.

Thank you ladies for encouraging me through the journey through Blue Cotton Praying to Blue Cotton Mourning to Blue Cotton Joy – I’m getting there. This closes a chapter of posts on mourning.  You have been brave, courageous women to stop by and drop a line of kindess.  You blessed me.

I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow” (Jeremiah 31:13)

When David’s child was sick, he mourned.  Those closest to him thought he was losing his mind, so much so they were scared to tell him, fearful of what he would do. Instead, he “arose from the earth, and washed and anointed himself and changed his clothes.  And he went into the house of the Lord and worshipped”(2Samuel 12:20).

David ate and his servants questioned him asking, “What is this thing you have done?  You have fasted and wept for the child while he was alive, but when the child died, you arose and ate food”(2Samuel 12:21).”

David answered, “But now he is dead.  Why should I fast?  Can I bring him back again?  I shall go to him, but he will not return to me”(2 Samuel 12:23).

And that my friends is how sorrow is turned into Joy!

Thank you God

for knowing that we would love people down here with all our hearts

and not want to be separated from them forever

proof of your compassionate never-ending love

Heaven is just a further example of that love.

Because love is a reflection of you,

and you think of everything before we even realize or need

your gift of eternal life is further evidence

Just as you want us to come home to you

so do you want that home full of those we have strived to love

just as you love us

Thank you God for knowing, giving us the hope

to meet again those we love

And I pray that you send laborers across the paths

of those who have not entered into the family of God

so that the door to Your home


will be open to them, too,

so they will not be left out

of the great family reunion

“You have turned for me my mourning into dancing”(Psalm 30:11)


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