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A year ago when I wrote this post, a son went from cap-and-gown to boots-and-uniforms. the  My prayers went where I could not. They still do. Parenting is a faith journey. Sometimes it is a hard faith journey – but a year later, looking back, a years worth of journey has seen prayers answered and good changes that do a mother’s heart glad. A year later is sometimes an encouraging place to be. Please enjoy with me a post about unconditional love in the journey.

Unconditional Love recognizes that there are roads loved ones must travel alone.

Maybe  over 100 years ago, people understood those kinds of journeys much better, the literal journey helping to better understand the figurative journey. When you stepped out the family door to start a journey, communication and physical contact was like disappearing into thin air. Parents did not consider it lack of love from their off-spring or even rebellion battling for independence. It was just life in a revolutionary country known for pushing the boundaries of existence.

Meriwether Lewis was only 26 years old when he was commissioned for the Lewis and Clark expedition. It was a journey his mother didn’t take with him.  Or Benjamin Bonneville who, according to a list of notable West Point graduates, “explored and mapped the Great Salt Lake and the Green, Snake, Salmon and Yellowstone Rivers.”  Then, there is Davey Crockett who ran away from home at age 13 before returning at age 16. All left home, going into places where communication with parents was minimal or non-existent. Unless communication occurred via letters, contact over long periods of time was practically non-existent.

All these men left home and by leaving home became men strong enough to carry the burdens of great responsibility.

Lewis and Bonneville left home out of logical design. Much smoother. Much friendlier. Probably leaving hearts warmed with pride and eyes threatening tears at a son going out into the world – to continue life’s journey.

Crockett left out of passion. Probably leaving a mother’s heart frantic, filled with despair, and maybe a little broken-ness inside. He returned 3 years later, to fulfill his obligations, making things right – and went on to become a national hero.

Yes, even today sometimes, we have to let loved ones travel alone, without that mama contact, without the safety-net, without help or words of love and encouragement that are bursting from a father or mother’s heart; sometimes without closure. Sometimes those journeys are fraught with mortal and spiritual danger. Sometimes it takes that kind of journey for them to finally recognize and embrace the person they were designed to become. Unconditional Love lets go like that.

We are spoiled today with instant communication. Everything is at our fingertips. However, growing into maturity is not an instant thing. At times like this, when our loved ones are on unreachable journeys, prayer can reach them, touch them, love them for us – when our words and our arms cannot. When we cannot sustain relationship, prayer still loves.

“So I sought for a man among them who would make a wall, and stand in the gap before Me on behalf of the land, that I should not destroy it; but I found no one.” (Ezekiel 22:30)

Our children, regardless of age, need us to “stand in the gap” before our Father, even when they are adults and in charge of their own spiritual health – we need to encourage them through prayer.

21 Leaving that place, Jesus withdrew to the region of Tyre and Sidon. 22A Canaanite woman from that vicinity came to him, crying out, “Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me! My daughter is demon-possessed and suffering terribly.”

 23Jesus did not answer a word. So his disciples came to him and urged him, “Send her away, for she keeps crying out after us.”

 24He answered, “I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel.”

 25The woman came and knelt before him. “Lord, help me!” she said.

 26He replied, “It is not right to take the children’s bread and toss it to the dogs.”

 27“Yes it is, Lord,” she said. “Even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table.”

 28 Then Jesus said to her, “Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed at that moment.(Matt 15:21-28)

A  mother interceding for her children through prayer. Touching their lives more effectively through prayer than with a hug or with words. Prayer can go places you cannot. Prayer allows a mother or father to connect when a child’s journey does not allow connection.

Letting go is a growing thing: a faith thing: a prayer thing – sometimes a necessary thing.


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by Blue Cotton Memory

About 2 years ago, my family set off on a journey that took us to another place. God said, “Go” and we went. People would say, “But your house hasn’t sold yet. . . . your son isn’t out of high school yet… but…but…but…” I would answer, “God said, ‘Go.'” And, He wanted us to go now.

A few months before we set off on our journey, the author of “The V-Files,” encouraged me to start a blog. “It’s easy,” she said.

My husband and I have often wondered about, “Why” and what God wanted us to accomplish on this journey.

A dear bloggy friend suggested it was a test of obedience.

You see – this journey has not been a summer vacation or a get-away time. It has been a Odysseus journey, I guess, completing one arduous challenge after another. 

I have been frustrated because I have applied for jobs – and the doors just are not opening. It made me feel old, to be honest. 

The one area that has grown and doors have opened have been here – in the blogahood. A heart-felt thank you for every visit, every encouragement, every connection, invitations to write, always making me feel like I was contributing something valuable.

There are 3 “dreams” or “hopes” I have had in my life. I wanted to marry for a lifetime a Knight-in-Shining-Armor-kind-of-guy – and God blessed me. I want to show my children how to grow old loving the Lord (am working on it). Since I was 6, I wanted to be a successful writer. I have been thisclose to finding a publisher for my children’s book – only to have the publishing house sold. My editor was lost in the shuffle. You’ve heard of un-requited love? Well, I have felt un-requited success. I gave my dream to God quite a few years ago – my dream of being a writer.

“What God. . . . what do you want me to do?” I asked over and over again – more so in these last two years which seemed like painful limbo.

Friday, God took the blinders off my eyes. Eyes wide open to truth, I paused, amazed. Nothing goes to waste. I am not a failure. I am the goose girl unveiled.

God gave me these past two years as a gift. . . to write for Him. As I waded through tears, heart-wrenching moments, I wrote. Many of you were there with me. He gave me my dream. Bigger than I imagined. Maybe not bigger than many blogs, but Bigger than I dreamed.

You see, on Friday, my blog viewer statistics hit 75,000. 75,000 visits to read what God put on my heart. To bunches of you, that is just a drop in the bucket. But to me, who thought that well maybe I ought to just write for my children, store it away for after I am gone, that no-one wanted to hear what poured inside out – that is 74,995 more opportunities to let others know about the love of Jesus, 74,995 more opportunities to lift someone up with the love of Jesus when they are down, 74,995 to let someone know they are not alone, that they are beautiful creations of a loving Father, to encourage others to reach out of their comfort zone to Jesus love someone not their own, 74,995 opportunities to encourage a cultural shift in how we view men in our society, 74,995  opportunities to encourage mothers to not give up when they are challenged beyond themselves.

Little things can have a big impact. It reminds me of one of my favorite songs from Les Miserable, “Little People”:

“A worm can roll a stone
A bee can sting a bear
A fly can fly around Versailles
‘Cos flies don’t care!
A sparrow in a hut
Can make a happy home
A flea can bite the bottom
Of the Pope in Rome!”

All the while I thought I wasn’t achieving anything, I really was. All the while I thought my dream had escaped me, I was living it the entire time. Maybe you are, too!

Psst! Thanks for coming by every now and then and listening to what I have to say:) You bless me!

 “Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4)

  “If you extend your soul to the hungry And satisfy the afflicted soul, Then your light shall dawn in the darkness, And your darkness shall be as the noonday. {11} The LORD will guide you continually, And satisfy your soul in drought, And strengthen your bones; You shall be like a watered garden, And like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail” (Isaiah 58:10-11)

And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, {25} not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching” (Hebrews 10: 24-25)

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