It’s just not Halloween without this post!
I used to think moms with just sons were pretty scary, until I became one of those moms.
When you’re a mom with 5 sons, no matter how big, those boys gotta think you can still take them down-no matter who’s around.
You gotta be able to call their bluff.
One day, one of my sons walked through the kitchen on his way to his room buck naked after showering in my shower. At the same time, the oldest one strolled into the kitchen in his boxers. I’d had it. I was tired of all this male non-challent nakedness. There was a girl in the house after-all, even if she was just “Mom.”
I started un-buttoning my pants. I said, “Well, if you can do it, I can, too.” They high-tailed it out of the kitchen. I didn’t see a naked butt for about 6 months. I must have been pretty Scary-Mommy! (BTW, I only started unbuttoning my pants. That’s all it took)
It gets pretty scary in the house when I do my “Mad Mad Madam Mim” immitation from The Sword and The Stone or the Lady in the Portrait from Harry Potter when she can just break a glass “Just with My Voice.” The threat to do those immitations in front of their friends pretty much makes them toe the line.
Then, I get pretty SCARY MOMMY when I create visual lectures on relationships and stuff, like “You’re a Cake” and “Hubba Bubba” and “Are you Man Enough?” And then I share them over S’Mores and Pizza when they bring BFFS over or I get a chance to hang around their “girl” friends at soccer games or church. It’s so scary, they almost like it.
A truly SCARY MOMMY makes sure Santa stuffs stockings for the older sons with things like Payne’s Common Sense, Tocqueville’s Democracy in America or C.S. Lewis’s Mere Christianity. However, for every Scary Mommy high moment, there is an equal Scary Mommy low moment, like when I reviewed every Def Leppard song with my son who disagreed that every Def Leppard song is about sex. We were trying to eliminate the sin-with-a-good-beat music choices. All Scary Mommy had to do was raise an eyebrow. My son conceded victory, but Scary Mommy was rather red-faced. Def Leppart no longer blared at the house.
I am probably SCARY MOMMY when I lose my temper, my keys, and when I drive (not quite all at the same time).
SCARY MOMMY loves enough to risk pride, respect, and affection in order to be the mom my son’s need me to be. SCARY MOMMY can be meaner, but SCARY MOMMY gives Volcano kisses that slobber all over their cheeks, bear hugs that can lift the biggest one of them all off the ground, and say, “I’m sorry. I really missed it” when I handle mommy-ness wrong.
SCARY MOMMY has a pretty scary sense of humor. When one son, whom we call “Bear” got in the car after soccer practice all cold and shivering, I asked him,” What’s the saddest sight in the whole wide world?”
“I don’t know. Your cooking?” he answered. I almost forgot my joke.
“A hairless bear shivering with cold,” I answered. Now readers, you need to visualize that before you can truly appreciate the SCARY MOMMY humor.
The boys would really think I was SCARY MOMMY if they knew what I was like without God in my life giving me the strength, the courage, the inspiration, the never-give-up-ness to believe in their innate goodness when it’s on sabitacal, to believe they are walking in God’s plan for their lives when it seems like every plan has been thrown away, to believe they have generous hearts when they are tight-fisted with their brothers, and to love passionately and unconditionally even when they don’t want to love me back. SCARY MOMMY drops to her knees in prayer when life is scarier than she is!
SCARY MOMMY? Bring it on! Sometimes I just plain scare myself!
Wishing you a day of celebrating family!