Later, as I work in my office, he slides up to the side of my desk, “Can we go to Marble Slab?”
At bedtime, “When are you taking me to Marble Slab; you said you would,” he grouses, accusingly.
I have learned not to pin-point an exact time, with this son. I have learned the art of political evasion – because if I do not do what I said I would do when I said I would do it, he gets put out.
I told him we would go to Marble Slab one day before school when the time was right. I told him why we needed to put it off – but the truth did not matter. School was starting, there were supplies, shoes and cleats to buy, lunch accounts to fill, and fees to pay.
He didn’t want to see that truth. He just knew that I took his little brother to Marble Slab while he was at camp – so he asked to even life out. He expects it – because his brother had it.
That is not a good reason to fulfill a request. Sometimes, walking through age 13 is like walking barefoot in the dark over Legos spilled along the path.
I want my children to ask. But asking with an entitlement attitude, an evening-up attitude is not the way to do it. Being sullen will not get my son what he wants.
I wish I could handle being the recipient of asking like God handles it. God wants us to ask. He encourages the asking – even asking over and over again. Unlike me, God has a bottomless energy supply to engage with the asker.
Yet, asking followed by foot tapping impatience, with expectations for the request to be handed over right now – that might be how we go to Mom, but that is not how we go to God. Asking is not just a question for God. Asking to God is not “gimme” communication. Asking God is the opening of a dialogue – and a willingness to hear what he has to say about what you are asking.
Ask and it shall be given you,
Seek, and ye shall find
Knock, and it shall be opened unto you.
For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened ” (Luke 11:9-10, KJV)
Asking God is about opening a dialogue, seeking the truth, a willingness to find truth – to look not just in the obvious places but in the hidden, under-the-cushion-kind-of-places, and once finding it knocking as much as it takes to open the door to get it.
“Call to me and I will answer you. I’ll tell you marvelous and wondrous things that you could never figure out on your own” (Jeremiah 33:3)
Asking God is not a simple yes or no micro-dialogue.
Asking God is inter-active, requiring faith and action on our side.
Asking God says, “I am interested in the journey to the answer.”
What are you asking for? Are you ready for the journey to the answer?