Comment Tip # 5
Avoid Taking Offense
Maryleigh: I guess one needs a “generosity of spirit.” Not everyone coming to a blog is at the same place – and it is all about respecting differences and wanting those differences to come back.
Mika: I agree about embracing differences. If I ever get to posting something controversial, I’d like to be able to have opposing viewpoints in the comments. No single viewpoint is ever the absolute whole really. Even if I do think mine is more accurate (LOL).
Maryleigh: However,the differences we discuss are not about deal-breaker things – like God and Life. If someone came to my blog and tried to say, “There is no God” – well I think I’d be stymied – I wouldn’t want it there. That’s different than a commenter saying, “I’m struggling with my belief right now.”
Mika: No – that’s true. It would be odd for someone to say that when your blog is fairly clear about your beliefs. If something like that happened, well, then you have to wonder about that person’s motives.
Maryleigh:I guess it’s about – are they throwing stones – trying to crash your event.
Mika: I can ignore someone insulting me, but if they’re insulting someone under my “roof,” then I have to take some sort of action.
Maryleigh: Training yourself to think of the multi-dimensional ways your posts or comments can be taken can eliminate an internal panic-attack (like if you ran out of turkey after the second guest filled his plate at Thanksgiving Dinner) at someone’s response to your communication – because they took it differently than you intended.
Mika: My thoughts exactly. If they are throwing stones – or they are throwing stones at one of my other guests – then I have to take some sort of action. That’s where the consistency we talked about before comes in. But maybe they’re not and it’s a misunderstanding somewhere. I hate being mis-interpreted, but realistically, it does happen. Especially on the internet. I’d like people not to take offense and give me the benefit of the doubt. So I have to return the favour and avoid taking offense, too!
Setting boundaries – women do it all the time. On dates. In marriage. With their Children. In what you choose to write about. Setting boundaries diffuses emotional situations. We hope that maybe you have found some alternative choices or maybe a reflection of the choices you have made that give you confidence in how you handle the dialogue in the blogahood. Thanks so much for joining us today!