“Mama, you’re the best cook,” my little guy says, sitting at the counter.
As he sees the smile spread across my face as I pull dinner out of the oven, his eyebrows rise and a saucy smile releases the words, “Opposite Day.”
I think as little boys move into the moody blues of elevenses, Opposite Day Words allow them to say, “I love you. You’re awesome” – when the little guy within who adores his mama battles with the emerging man who so doesn’t want to.
Opposite Day, when slow means fast, when pink means blue, huggable means squirmmy, when sacrifice means gain.
The universe has order – God made it so – how our blood flows, how my grandmother’s coffee cake bakes, how cells divide, how coffee brews – it is all orderly process. Yet, what He wants from us is sometimes like an Opposite Day Paradigm.
To give ourselves up – our dreams, our hearts, our time, our identity, our dignity – to beggar ourselves until we’re empty with nothing left to give – that is the great deception.
In God’s Opposite Day Paradigm
when we give up ourselves in marriage, we become whole
when we give up ourselves in the mothering, we become more
when we give our gifts and talents, they come back some how pressed down, shaken together and running over
It boggled my me-ness when I would read about becoming more like Him. Why would He create me if He just wanted more of Him? Until I realized in this “Opposite Day Paradigm” – when there was more of Him in me, I became who He designed me to be – I became the authentic me. I cannot be that without Him.
When I hold on to myself, I become less. Yet, when I sacrifice my dreams, my time, my pride to Him, I don’t become less.
This Opposite Day Paradigm take Sacrifice and turns it into gain.
Sacrifice reminds me of Mary weeping at the foot of the cross. Sacrifice reminds me of nail piercing pain. Wailing? Sackcloth? Weeping until there’s only hoarseness with each breath?
Yet that is not sacrifice.
The grace of sacrifice comes through choice.
Jesus chose to sacrifice for us. Lived sacrifice – from his birth in the manager, to every daily sacrifice that led Him to the cross.
Sacrifice never acts impoverished. Sacrifice never acts victimized. Sacrifice never resents.
Sacrifice overcomes. Sacrifice loved enough that death could not be contained in a tomb, in burial wrappings.
To sacrifice is to gain – an Opposite Day kind of thing.






























Hey ML! What a beautiful post. Just as Jesus said he who loses his life will find it, or as said in Acts ,”And said unto them, Whosoever shall receive this child in my name receiveth me: and whosoever shall receive me receiveth him that sent me: for he that is least among you all, the same shall be great.” Some times “out of the mouths of “babes” shall we learn, huh?
God Bless,
PJ
oh, i’ve bookmarked this, because i think i’m going to have to re-visit it from time to time. lots to chew on here. great way of thinking of things. . . and i’ve not considered this exact perspective before. i love it.
thanks for sharing it this day.
steph
I love this post
I love the message that to sacrifice is to gain… you’ve stated this so well. Would you like to post it on my blog hop? I just started it up, and it’s for all sorts of inspiring posts.
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I think we were on the same (not opposite!) wavelength today! Great thoughts! Now, to the hard work of giving up our lives so that God can reclaim them!
What a neat concept. So many good things to think about. Thanks for a great post.
Oh, how many times I’ve heard that “paradigm”! What a beautiful way of taking it and applying it to life – *real* life. It does seem so opposite, but it’s absolutely incredible – the way He takes us and makes us whole. Thank you so much for sharing this!
Love this. It reminds me of a song by Leeland called “Opposite Way.” Jesus did everything opposite of what was expected. We should live the same here, not by what our culture dictates. Great words friends.
Hi Bluecottonmemory – wow, so true. I always say God’s ways don’t make sense to us because His ways work opposite to our thinking and you just laid it out so perfectly. You have laid it out so practically so that it makes complete sense. Great post
God bless
Tracy
Such a beautiful post…I just pinned it on Pinterest. My word for the year is Surrender and this fits so perfectly!
http://pinterest.com/blackpurl/2012-the-year-of-surrender/
What wise words …thank you! It is such a mystery that as we surrender to Him, we actually become more who He made us to be…more authentic…just boggles my mind…and His living sacrifice for us…still pondering that this Lent…blessings to you and yours
Excellent! I’ve always been intrigued by the paradoxes in scripture. These opposites just don’t make sense to us in the flesh, but thankfully we can trust God with them in the Spirit.
“To sacrifice is to gain – an Opposite Day kind of thing.” Amen.
Love this! I’m reminded of John the Baptist’s words, “He must become more and I must become less.” In becoming less, John gained so much more.
Blessings,
Joan
I love this post so much. I also loved your sweet encouragement on my post. Your words, they helped.
This is such a lovely post.
Regards,
Ruby
I like this analogy. Sometimes it takes a bit of standing on my head to see things the way God sees them…
I’ve never heard of this Opposite Day thing. Glad you knew when it happened… I’d have been upset.
Your way of putting all those bits and pieces together in a godly and helpful fashion was very nice. Good thinking, good sharing.
Love this! It amazes me at times how I have to stretch and look around to see the way He sees. Thanks for sharing this…a great read!
I had to Facebook this! Such a beautifully written reminder!
I’d never heard of opposite day things. It’s interesting. It makes me think of all the things in our society that were once considered bad or at least not good are now accepted as good and to disagree with that just isn’t allowed. You made some interesting points about sacrifice. Thank you for sharing.
Blessings,
Charlotte
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Wow! First of all, thank you for stopping by my FMF “Rest” post and linking me here. This just blessed my socks off. I’m not even sure I can express how powerful this is – your words, your writing, the meaning of it all. Powerful.